Grief and Loss
"Grief, I’ve learned,
is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot.
Grief is just love with no place to go.”
― Jamie Anderson
Grief is like hiking through a forest without a map...
and building the trail as you go.
Sometimes you can get lost or stuck in the grieving process when it gets complicated by anger, denial, or depression. Some losses are harder to grieve because they are not acknowledged, socially accepted, or publicly mourned. Examples include pregnancy loss, loss by suicide, murder, overdose, or a loss where your relationship with the deceased is not recognized or accepted by your support network. These types of losses can cause you to feel isolated and can make it harder to grieve.
When grief is complicated by any of these factors, therapeutic support can facilitate
the grieving process and help you move forward in healing.
My role as a therapist in your grief journey is to walk alongside you and help you find the trail forward. In therapy we focus on helping you process your grief, develop coping skills, and adapt to move forward in your life after loss. If you are feeling stuck or lost in your grief, I encourage you to connect with me to see how therapeutic support during your grieving process might help.
Grief Support Following Loss
of a Child
विलोम Vilomah, in Sanskrit means “against a natural order”.
Child loss is the most difficult experience any parent can ever have. Grieving the loss of your child can feel like an impossible and insurmountable task. Child loss can feel isolating and is a grief experience that is unique in of itself. Many people, including well-meaning and supportive friends and family, don’t understand and cannot relate to grieving parents.
There are additional stressors involved for grieving parents, such as strain on the relationship between the parents, especially if you are grieving differently. Depending on the circumstance of death, some parents also experience intense feelings of guilt or hold themselves responsible for their child’s death.
As a parent, you are not only navigating your own grief, but if you have other children, you are supporting them in their grief. Lastly, managing the busyness and complexities of parenting while grieving an immense loss is extremely difficult to do day in and day out.
During my time working in Pediatric Intensive Care Units (PICU) and in Pediatric Palliative care, I companioned and supported many families through the loss of their child. I understand the nuances and complexities involved in this type of grief, as well as the immense trauma that is child loss.
My role is to provide the support and understanding that many grieving parents have difficulty finding, as well as getting you to a place where you feel like you can function in life. We move towards finding the new normal, whatever that looks like, while integrating the memory of your child and honoring them in your life as you continue on.